Tuesday, July 24, 2007 @3:47 PM
Let me show you the way
A WHOLE LOT OF THINGS TO SAY.
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OH OH! i helped a blind woman at buona vista yesterday. :) :)
She was in the station and she just couldnt make up which direction to go. I have no idea why la. cos she could only walk towards her left or right. but she kept using her stick to hit the wall infront of her. then she stood there looking so lost.
But I'm just shocked that NO ONE actually stopped to help her? Everyone just walked passed. and its not like its not obvious that the woman is blind and needed help. TSK TSK.
what is with Singaporeans nowadays.
so i walked from the other end towards her and asked if she needed help. walked her to the escalator, down the station and to the bus stop (which i have no idea where it was haha) blah blah.
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and here's the climax of it all.
There's this irritating woman. (looks like she's from China)
I TELL YOU. she has functioning eyes but she's so blind. heh
walked right up and tripped over the blind woman's stick. the stick dropped and the blind woman almost fell (good thing she held on to me) and The woman didnt even say SORRY!
she just kept grabbing her foot, starred at the blind woman, and said "aiyo! aiyo! my leg, walk also never walk properly...tsk tsk tsk" (i mean she said it all in Chinese la).
oh my goodness. i really feel like slapping her. she didnt even help pick up the stick. just gave that kind of stupid irritating face.
then her male colleague (i assume) picked the stick up and apologised on behalf of her..
Sometimes people are just SOOOOO SLAPPABLE.
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i went to visit my grandpa at the hospital again.
When he saw me, he smiled, held my hands and closed his eyes.
You could see tears welling up at the corners of his eyes. I dont know why, but i think he's just holding back.
Later, I gave him his favourite foot scratch, let him listen to some chinese christian music, and he fell asleep. So my mum and aunt went down for coffee but i decided to stay back, just to be with him.
Then i really wanted to cry too.
Its painful to see him suffer like that. But at least i know for sure where he's going when he leaves us.
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Now, the family is deciding to put him into Hospice care, which is like $200 a day. and 30 day would come up to about $6000. and divided by 6 siblings, each would have to pay about $1000 a month, 3 months would be $3000 each.
Where to find that kind of money.
Sometime back, the Doctors said that he'll live for about 4 more months. and now its july, and doctors say he'll live for another 3 more months. Somehow, the time gets longer. haha.
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Anyways, I dont really approve about the hospice thingy. (although my views are never taken into consideration in this family), but i just dont like the idea.
I really think my grandpa would like to stay home and be with the people he loves and not be around other sick old people who usually groan and mourn when they are in pain.
He totally understands why we would want put him into the hospice. and thats becos my grandma cant take care of him and he doesnt have a choice anyways. But i know he'd rather not be there.
my mum and all my aunties are all anticipating that he'll die in 3 months. So they "jokingly" put it that way, that if he doesnt die in 3 months, we'll have to fork out more money.
My grandpa is strong. if he can live another 4 months, i KNOW he can live for more than 3 months again. and He has the Will to live.
I know my relatives are trying to be practical. but i hate the fact that they want to put him into the hospice and start anticipating his death. Put it that way, hoping that he leaves in 3 months.
hate it hate it hate it.
Besides, i can foresee that once he's there, people would stop visiting him everyday because its so convenient, No one needs to take care of him anymore, and he'll be left there to die like in some old folks home.
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The other alternative is that bring my grandpa back home and roster each family member to come look after him.
okay, not a bad idea. but who has got the time! and besides, its in the wee hours of the morning that he requires people to be around him just in case sth happens and not just from 6pm-9pm kinda thing.
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I suggested that we should get a Helper. like a maid who is trained in such a way that they look after sick elderly.
less than $800 a month.
its affordable, my grandpa gets to be home, my grandma has someone to take care of the house, cook for her etc.. Why not!
my mum agrees with me, but knowing my grandma, she wouldnt want it cos she says she'll end up serving the maid instead. haha. and she's not used to an outsider in the house.
but its all about getting use to and crossing your fingers that you'll get a reliable helper.
and who knows, my grandpa has another few more months, or maybe even get healed, and the helper can still be there to take care of them.
Then everyone can still be "rostered" in a way to come visit him at least like one person a day..
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Oh wells. no one listens to me anyways.
at least my dad has the same views as i do. so he's speaking to my aunty about it.
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Since i'm complaining so much. i might as well say it all. haha
STUPID NUH.
If anyone is ill. pls dont go there. its negligence beyond negligence.
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Before my grandpa found out that he had cancer, he had like tummy aches and kept vomiting. So we sent him to NUH and the doctor said there's nothing wrong, and simply gave him anti-vomiting pills.
Then another time sth happened again and we sent him there, they operated on him cos of some duno what thing la. and gave him more medicine to eat.
Then my aunt who is a nurse said sth must be wrong. Insisted that they do a full check, and FINALLY FOUND OUT THAT HE has final stage cancer.
my goodness. Right from the beginning if they would checked thoroughly, it would have been cured. And besides for someone his age, dont doctors suspect that it might be sth terminal?
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next thing.
Doctors i believe should know best.
But they insisted that my grandpa could take it and told us that he should go for another round of Chemo.
and HO! that last chemo made his body so weak and now he's bed ridden cos his legs arent functioning anymore.
before that although my grandpa was ill. but he still could walk!
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next thing.
they charge us for bathing, and 6 cans some liquid food which they claim to have given to my grandpa. but in actual fact, my grandpa said they didnt bath him and he only had like 2 cans of those liquid food.
we called and they refunded the money.
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next thing.
just recently, we went and found out that his right foot was bigger than the left and his face was bigger than usual. then my aunt called the nurse and said didnt you all realise that. they said NO. okay never mind.
my aunt who knows quite abit said its because the drip dosage was too much. and its kinda bad for his heart. so we insisted that we call a doctor over to check.
Then this young chinese lady doctor came with this really QIAN DA face, gave some stupid explanation and said oh we'll send him for X ray. then my aunt was like he just went for x ray this morning! then she oh oh.. ya you're right. blah blah. then i said, dont you all read up on your patients, why are you asking us about medical stuff, like if he has had this and that.
then she wasnt too happy, she said, okay we'll do a scan.. "DOES THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY NOW?"
wah my aunt almost boxed her in the eye.
next time come ask me. i'll show you how her QIAN DA face looks like.
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SERIOUSLY. I can guarantee you that there are many many similar complaints about NUH or other government hospitals. Probably MOH covers it all up and i better not say anything before i get sued.
BUT its NEGLIGENCE! ugh.
these doctors dont have a heart for patients. they just have the brains for it.
The patients arent their family. They dont go the distance to save one's life.
IRRITATING.
NUH IS SO SLAPPABLE.
